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Love Over Labels – Week 28

As I worked the label machine this week, I noticed something important beneath the labels: self-image. My self-image choices control which labels are available for my experiences.

If I feel at risk, my experience of vulnerability might be limited to the labels of fear or anger.

If my self-image is stronger, vulnerability becomes just that, an experience of humanity, but not a source of anxiety.

And, yet, the need to “run” the machine and “label” my emotional experiences to make them more productive and less fearful seems like camouflage for something deeper.

What if the need to label was just my “subby” running the old programming and unwilling to be interrupted? My subconscious gives me the appearance of conscious control without relinquishing control at all. AARGH!

What if the need to label instead of just experience in the present moment was a defense mechanism?

I listened to a professional coach today who opined that change is a function of 3 factors:
• Leverage
• Awareness and
• Decision

As I pondered this, it struck me that I often substitute “relabeling” for active listening. Real listening, being completely present, requires a lot less recapitulation and is much more beneficial.

The path to beneficial listening and life experience? For me, love. Love for self, primarily, and love for the people with whom I interact. As in Mandino’s Scroll 2, I can use love as a shield if I need to, but I can usually cast it aside in a posture of acceptance, responsibility and defenselessness, living the law of least effort.

Thus, combining the law of love with the law of least effort allows the experience of vulnerability without any sense of risk.

As I processed this, I felt liberated. The chains of unnecessary control over the language of my experiences began to fall away. With them, the needs to judge, evaluate and control began to fade, too.

I could see another layer to the “opinion” diet. Rewording the ideas and concepts of others was a really good way to keep the opinion machine cranking while seeming to appear caring and concerned. That was a “win win” for the old blueprint. Oops!

Another idea the coach expressed was about time. He opined that “subby” doesn’t know time, just like it doesn’t know size. Uh-oh! That can’t be true, can it? You mean it doesn’t have to take a long time to transform? Oh, no! All my excuses are crap!

This is me laughing at myself as Mandino recommends in Scroll 8. I was definitely taking myself way too seriously!

Biggest benefit this week: without the burdens of opinion, defense and judgment, I’m a lot lighter on my feet as I dance through life.

I’m glad you’re dancing with me.

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Phoenix

The Desperation Matrix – Week 17 HJ Supplement 2

Most people, it is said, live lives of quiet desperation. The desperation comes from not being able to fulfil or manifest one’s dreams. Alternatively, a sense of living without purpose also brings desperation. A third type of desperation comes from perceived failures of integrity.

It is this last type of desperation about which I write today. The first task here is to define terms.

Integrity is the sense of something being whole or complete. An idea has integrity because it “hangs together” or is logically consistent.

Applying the idea of integrity to people leads to a need for what might be a jarring insight. In practice, we as a society refer to integrity to mean what is actually only pleasing integrity.

The jarring truth is that every person has integrity. That is because one’s outward life always materially manifests in accord with one’s dominant thoughts, beliefs and desires. It cannot be otherwise.

I use the adverb “materially” here in my previous professional context. As a retired attorney CPA, I was trained to understand that public accountants do not assert objective financial condition in a published financial statement. That is because an objective assertion would require one to audit every part of every system, together with an audit of every single transaction. The cost of such would be enormous.

In the business world, it is commonly recognized that investors and owners don’t need objective certainty about financial condition. What they do need, however, is assurance that financial assertions in published data are materially correct.

We don’t need a deep discussion of materiality here. Suffice it to say that materiality is a function of the size of an organization and the number of transactions in a given financial period.

Therefore, you can easily understand that a human’s life condition will almost always contain elements, even seemingly “material” elements that are temporarily not in accord with his or her true nature. Thus, con men are able, for a time, to maintain the illusion of pleasing integrity. Eventually, however, the truth will out.

We say, and truly so, you can tell a tiger by its stripes. You can tell a tree by its fruit. Thus, you can tell the quality and nature of a person’s dominant thoughts, beliefs, intents and desires by a careful examination of his or her circumstances.

One’s objective physical appearance is determined by one’s DNA, to a large degree. I am not able, for example, to significantly increase my unadorned height. My weight is another matter entirely, as is my skin condition, the style in which my hair is cut, and the quality and style of my clothing.

Fortunately, I am not financially or socially limited by my inability to play professional basketball in the NBA. My relatively diminutive height is no disadvantage, unless I choose it to be.

The nature of my integrity, however, does determine financial, social and personal success. All true success is based on principle. And pleasing integrity is fundamental to all true success.

Pleasing integrity comes down to one very simple idea: keeping promises. Promises can be explicit or implicit, but a promise is a promise. If you keep a promise, you have pleasing integrity to that extent. If you break a promise, your integrity becomes unpleasant and repellant to a degree consistent with the magnitude of the broken promise.

It is common for people to talk about integrity as a character trait, and that is well as far as it goes. However, many incidents of unpleasant integrity are subconscious, which muddies the character waters significantly. Judging another in that context becomes a risky pursuit best left alone.

Like everyone else, the vast majority of my choices are subconscious. This is because my habits of thought, belief and emotion have created the programs of my life. My life runs on those programs, for the most part. I have conscious control over small things, but not directly so over the big ones. To get conscious control over bigger things, I have to alter the subconscious programming.

That is the subject and purpose of the Masterkey Mastermind Alliance. We learn here how to change our subconscious blueprint by studying Charles Haanel’s Masterkey System. And, our study has been significantly enhanced by the introduction of a simple mantra, introduced early on.

Frequent use of a mantra is one way to use the conscious mind to reprogram the subconscious. Our mantra is this: “I always keep my promises.”

I initially believed that mantra to be aspirational. In other words, as I grew into Masterkey maturity, I really would keep all my objective promises. That is a wonderful thing. And it’s a great idea. It leads inexorably to better manifestation of pleasing integrity.

However, the mantra did a far better thing. Its frequent repetition created a demand for cognition of a deeper, far more important truth. The truth is I actually do keep all my promises. [if you get this, it’s OK to scream in horror. I did, and I’m not ashamed to admit it.]

It’s just that most of those kept promises are in the subconscious realm. Those promises are the fruits of my garden of thought, many of the seeds for which were planted long ago in the dim reaches of a suppressed, if not forgotten, past. Hence, the knowledge that I keep all my promises allows me to discern and infer from my actions my actual dominant thoughts, beliefs and desires.

This becomes an effective diagnostic tool that allows me, at any moment, to see exactly where my subconscious compass is pointed. It further allows me to see that upon which my subconscious lens (or magnifying glass) is focused.

Now we can draw a small arc of the circle of desperation. Desperation comes as a function of one’s level of consciousness and one’s sense of direction. Desperation deepens when in denial of consciousness. It further deepens when one’s life is other-directed. Thus we have a matrix of points at the intersection of two continua. One continuum is the degree to which one accepts and embraces one’s consciousness. The other continuum is the degree to which one is willing to self-direct as opposed to volunteering for other-direction.

When one unconsciously operates an other-directed life, one can plummet into abyssal desperation. When one is fully conscious and operates a self-directed life, transcendent peace results. As these are continua, an infinite number of conditions and states are possible.

For me, simply being delivered from the chains of my previous beliefs is reward enough. I will be forever grateful for the gift of a simple, unassuming mantra. I keep all my promises!

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