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Winners & Losers – Week 08

There is a basic difference between winners and losers, and I think it stems from one thing.  The one thing is a sense of basic abundance vs. a sense of basic insufficiency.

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And, I should know!  Despite wonderful gifts of intellect, work ethic, empathy, ambition and insight, my life up to now has been filled with a vague sense of insufficiency.  Reasoning deductively, if the fruit says insufficient, it must be an “insufficient” tree.

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You might think this would be a devastating revelation.  And I suppose it might be if I didn’t now know very well how to plant a better tree.  On top of that, I have Miracle Grow with which I can fertilize the new tree.  Still, to finally figure out you’ve spent decades in a “less than” box isn’t fun.  My sympathies to anyone making a similar discovery.

In case you want to know, here are some ways you can tell if you have a “basic insufficiency” mindset or belief system:

  • You often feel competitive, even where that’s not really appropriate
  • Your savings account has a negative balance
  • You love your work, but it doesn’t love you
  • Your “To Do” list is full of “should” instead of “get to”
  • You love your spouse, but he or she doesn’t show love to you the way you really need
  • You’d take on a new project, but you just don’t know if your heart can take another failure experience
  • You’ve overdrawn your bank account (or had a payment returned) at least once in the last 6 months

I could go on, but I think you get the idea.  And if you do, this little look in the mirror might be unpleasant.  Chin up!  You’re still breathing, and you have a friend here who feels your pain.  Change is always possible.

Want some good news?  There is help, and there is hope!  Take a look at this short video clip about the Cement Buddha.

You CAN use the Master Key System to help knock the cement off your Buddha.  How do I know?  Because I feel different today.  And, this post is evidence that the cement is coming off my Buddha.

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God has been trying all along to tell me His Universe is abundant, the world He created for us is abundant, and even I, I am abundant.  And, now, I’m ready to listen.  Ask Him; He’ll tell you, too, if you like.

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Week 02 – Distractions Come from Within

Last week, I opined on one of the MKMMA fora that my electronic devices were distracting me.  Then, as I continued reading the Master Key System and I realized something profound:  all external conditions are simply manifestations of one’s internal world (Master Kay, Lesson 1, Paragraph 8).  Therefore, if my devices were distracting me, it’s because I was internally distractible.

Oh no!  I had to take ownership of all the distracting elements of my current life.  They’re there because I created them.  My iPad can only distract me insofar as I desire to be distractible.  My computer or TV likewise.

This is great knowledge, but it’s a little distressing.  I mean, really!?!  I have to take ownership of every aspect and condition of my life?  I can’t just sit here and be a victim?   Well, clearly, if I really want what I say I want (achievement, success, etc.), then I have to own my life, starting from my internal world.

The good news here for me, and for everyone, is that taking ownership is the beginning of real (and relatively easy) change.  For example, I was almost instantly able to tell myself that morning is not the right time to play iPad solitaire.  And, of course, it is never time for that until the day’s work is well and truly done.

More importantly, I can now begin to improve myself in ways that will immediately improve my primary interpersonal relationship: my marriage.

Case in point: conflict.  Reasoning from the foregoing, conflict flows from the inside out, not from the outside in.

Application: as I remove (and/or stop sowing) the seeds of marital conflict, I should see a dramatic drop in the frequency and intensity of conflict in my marriage.

Conclusion: I will be immediately better off the sooner I find and eradicate in my internal world the seeds of marital conflict.

Result: I began almost immediately to perceive feelings in myself that were previously inscrutable.  For example, in a certain case, I felt put-upon by the possibility my wife would leave to me alone the execution of a planned event.  That came across in my communication.  Though the words of the communication were innocent enough, the unexpressed accusatory emotion underlying them was incendiary.

Here, then, is the key to the Arbinger Institute’s “box.”  Harmony within can never manifest in disharmony without.  And I can create harmony within by taking full ownership of my inner world.  Thank you, God, for giving me the insight to understand at least this much of the Master Key System!

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